Welcome to Someday Daughter
On August 29, 2019, I held my first daughter in my arms for the first and last time. Eden never got to live here on Earth with us and that hurt in so many ways on so many levels. To this day, it all still feels like a dream, or rather a nightmare. I carried her in my belly for 37 weeks, and she will always have a special place in my heart. I can truly say that I have never been the same since that day.
Eden opened my eyes to all I was, wasn't, and wanted to be. She exposed the depths of my strength; that I can handle more than I ever imagined. It may seem odd, since I never truly mothered her, but she taught me all I desired out of motherhood. In the months after Eden, I found myself mourning not only her, but everything I would have taught and shared with her. I was hit with the reality that I had not prepared for her arrival in all the ways I should have. I decided then that someday, when I do have a daughter, I must be ready. This is where the concept "Someday Daughter" began.
I am married to an entrepreneur so I have the luxury of seeing the resources that business owners are presented. There are COUNTLESS books, peer groups, seminars, referral groups, podcasts, newsletters, networking events, and the list goes on and on. Entrepreneurs themselves are a vital part of the success of their business so personal development is such a strong emphasis. You want to see a village? Just look at the community of a successful entrepreneur.
Flash to me, a homemaker, struggling to show up for the most important job in the world, with nearly no support. I have 4 sisters, a wonderful mother, and a mother in law whom I live with (which is more than most) and I still manage to feel lost half of the time! One day I was in the laundry room on speaker phone with my mother trying to figure out how I was going to save my comforter from the bright green blowout stain that just soaked in. I realized in that moment, that calling my mother is always my first instinct when an unfamiliar situation arises, and THEN I realized that one day, I will be on the other end of the phone.
How am I supposed to teach my children to do things I have no idea how to do? Home economics used to be a standard class in school and now it doesn't exist. Women were taught how to treat stains, sew, disinfect surfaces, and how to clean a sweater without turning it from a size 10 to a size 2. I hung up the phone with my mother after she carefully explained the process to clean my comforter (it worked, by the way), and started dreaming of a community like the one you are now a part of.
I've always fantasized of hosting dinner parties, hanging chore charts, having beautifully sliced fruit prepared for my kids after school, and preparing fresh baked goods every evening. Here I am, in the thick of it, and each one of those things feels insurmountable on any given day. Motherhood is hard. Womanhood is hard. Life is hard. And I need a village. If you are anything like me, you do too. So let's build a village together. A place to share recipes, skincare routines. We can encourage each other from the terrible twos to the twenty- somethings. Welcome to Someday Daughter, a modern day village for women looking to be their best selves in light of the daily challenges life throws at us. I think you're going to like it here!